152. Busyness is not a symbol of success
Jul 16, 2021
By: Michael Beiter
"You know, we could enjoy every weekend like this if we stopped signing up for so much crap," a mom and wife said to her husband on a Sunday morning after they woke up, made coffee, and started their day slowly with reading.
She couldn't believe how good she felt. And that has been compounding with the amount of things cancelled from the pandemic.
Her experience is not uncommon. Dozens of my clients echoed this same last year when we all had to slow down. Now, as they are easing back into work, many of them have the option to continue some form of remote work.
The pandemic seemed beneficial if you ignore the suffering and death. I attribute it to a reduction in busyness.
According to Essentialist author Greg Mckeown we make too many casual commitments and don't cancel them for a fear of missing out.
Everyone knows what it's like to accidentally commit to something while trying to end a conversation.
Or to sign on for something you believed you had the time and energy for only to find out you are over your head.
Moms and dads have kid's events or social obligations every weekend.
They are so busy doing stuff they rarely get time for themselves to read, drink coffee without having to be somewhere, or to have an open and inviting schedule.
The price they pay is to give their life to priorities that don't matter much.
As they say, if you don't set your own priorities and guard them mightily, someone else will set them for you.
The fear we have of missing out on something is unwarranted.
The people you decline to dine with and the friends your kids won't see til Monday will not disown you.
Your work will be there when it's time to work again.
It is time we slow down and say no to some stuff.
It is time we stopped celebrating busyness as a symbol of success.