195. A Millenial, A Boomer, and a Stud Walk Into A Check In

mental fitness Nov 18, 2021

By: Michael Beiter

 

Yesterday I talked to a thirty-year-old millennial client who said, "I am working more than I am living right now, and I don't like it." 

Right after him, I met with a sixty-two-year-old boomer client who said, "I am facing retirement and a little concerned with what I will do. All I have ever known is work. What will I do with myself?"

You are probably wondering what a push-up and protein guy is doing talking about work. To put it simply: work is the most significant barrier to eating and exercise success. 

If my two examples above don't illustrate my point, consider this one. One of the most successful realtors in our metro cried in admittance that she "did not know how to relax" when I asked her what she would do with extra free time. 

All three of these people have fallen victim to the hamster wheel of more ever-present work in our society. 

When asked what concerned him most about humanity the Dahli Lahma replied:

"Man. Because he sacrifices his health to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die and then dies having never really lived."

I have fallen for the trap myself. When I started my business, I bought into the idea of growth at all costs. It took less than a year to realize I could not keep giving all my good hours to work. My health and relationships suffered, but my business was booming. I decided to cut my working hours in half, which also meant cutting my revenue by the same margin (or so I thought). 

That was at the end of 2019. It is the end of 2021 now, and I have not worked more than twenty hours a week in two years. I reduced my living cost significantly to accommodate the expected income drop, but something strange happened: revenue did not fall. It went up. How? Because by setting bounds on how much and when I would work, I increased the quality of my service, and the people our small team serves have been bringing us new business consistently ever since. Pretty cool, huh? 

So my advice is counterintuitive. By prioritizing yourself, you will be much more able to help others when you choose to. It all starts when you say "enough is enough" and set your bounds and stick to them. 

I gave the millennial, boomer, and realtor who are all perma-striving for more the same suggestion: "define your bounds with work and don't compromise them for anyone or anything. When you do that you will free up the time you need to take care of yourself with leisure and exercise."

Or don't and keep chasing the dragon of wealth, prestige, fame, and status and watch as the Dalai Lama predicts your life. The choice is entirely up to you. 

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