We don't get a pat on the back or celebrated when we put a day of work in. Or when we watch our kids from sun up til' down. We just do them because that's what responsible adults do. No congratulations needed.
Working out and eating right though? We can't do that without a fuckin cheerleading squad complimenting every session finished or proper plate eaten.
There's an elephant and six blind men.
They can rely on their sense of touch to learn. One by one each of them reached out and touched the elephant.
One touched his side and thought it was a wall. The second touched his trunk and concluded it was a snake. Blind man three touched his tail and thought it a rope. Number four felt an ear and called it a fan. Man five touched a leg and said it was a tree. Lastly, man six felt the trunk and said it was a spear.
Each man had a...
Unconfident eaters and exercisers make a mistake by believing their mistakes matter.
If I asked you to try for a whole year to make a mistake that hasn't been made by someone else before you would have a hard time doing it.
Doing something wrong or badly is not the issue. If anything it's the expectation. Nobody gets good at anything without making mistakes.
An issue I see often in myself and those I work with is whether or not mistakes are recognized and used to set us up...
I work with a bunch of teachers and asked them how students fail their class. The same way most students fail is the same way a lot of eaters screw up their nutrition.
Do they turn in awful work worthy of a failing grade? Or does it have to do with their conduct in class?
It turns out the most common way to fail a class isn't from lackluster work or misbehaving, it's from putting up zeros.
Who doesn't remember the occasional assignment skip?
"My shows are on tonight, this...
Have you ever thought the facility you pay for or person you hire to help with your fitness are harming more than helping?
They create dependency. "On what?" you ask.
On the trainer, time slot, directional style, whistle, music, equipment, location, people in class and route to gym.
What would happen if these things got taken away?
No one thought to ask such a question until Covid 19 forced us to answer it.
And like another dependency we are all familiar with: parent...
Like the food environment we live in, our digital environment is stacked against us.
It's like you're playing against the house. And given long enough, the house always wins.
Our food environment is obesogenic. That means it causes obesity. Overly processed foods and food products designed to be addictive as well as marketed to kids are just a few ways the powers that be stack the deck in their favor.
Similarly, the tech giants have effectively created a new economical model...
Do you ever feel like you know exactly what to do (exercise) but when it comes time to execute you can't get yourself to do it?
Researchers have found this to be explainable by a tendency of your brain we have had for millions of years: the conservation of energy.
Over the years conserving energy was vital to human survival. Search for food and shelter, competition for mates, and avoiding risky situations were top priority for anyone alive then.
These processes consume monstrous...
Failure is a part of everyday life. How you handle it largely determines your outcomes. Be that in the kitchen or gym or at work and in home.
Someone who claims to have never failed has never really tried or is lying.
They didn’t do anything particularly challenging or difficult.
They chose safety and comfort over significance and courage.
This is easy to do and getting easier the more modern the world becomes.
The ability to fail well involves...
Being controlled by a stimulus means that whenever you see it you react to it. If food is that stimulus then when you see it you eat it.
This has become a problem for a lot of people. If you find yourself nibbling or binging on food then a solution is to control the stimulus.
There are three skills you need to practice until they form habits so you can better control your eating.
The first is to get food out of sight and reach except at meal times. The old saying 'out of sight out...